In this week’s mindset reflection, we’re going to talk about the Six Rules of Life that ensure success and authentic growth. These are the six rules that some of the most successful people seem to have in common, and are rules I’ve tried to abide by in my entrepreneurial and personal life.
It’s always important to trust your own intuition. Your choices are never bad. There are never really any mistakes, when you listen to your inner guidance, only lessons.
Listen to your inner guidance. No one else is walking the journey you’re on, and as Benjamin Spock once noted, “You know more than you think you do.”
Break Some Rules
You’ll learn, as you engage in the practice of living in the present moment, that rules were meant to be broken. Non-conformity is a blissful art. It is liberating.
Author Robert Heinlein wrote in Stranger in a Strange Land, “I am free, no matter what rules surround me. If I find them tolerable, I tolerate them; if I find them too obnoxious, I break them. I am free because I know that I alone am morally responsible for everything I do.”
Don’t Be Afraid to Fail
Failure is nothing more than a stepping stone to success. Everything you’ve ever dreamed of lies on the other side of the fear of failing.
The phoenix only rises from the ashes, once it has allowed itself to burn in the fire.
Ignore the Naysayers
The closer you are to your breakthrough, the more resistance you will meet in the world around you at first. The reason for this is simple, really.
Remember that everything you experience is a reflection of your subconscious mind. Therefore, the naysayers are reflecting the fears and negative programming that remain on the hard-drive of your subconscious mind as “chaotic data”. When you clear that chaotic data, by gently acknowledging each naysayer for what they are — a gift and opportunity to bring you closer to your ultimate breakthrough — then everything in your experience begins to shift dramatically and in exciting ways.
When I encounter a naysayer, I respond in my heart by saying, “I love you. I am sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. Namasté.” This is the practice of ho’oponopono, which I’ve covered in greater depth in my book, Śunyata: the Transformative Power of Emptiness (available on Amazon in hardcover and for the Kindle).
Work Like Hell
It’s been said that there will be obstacles and doubters. There will be mistakes and disappointments. But with hard work, there are no limits to what you can accomplish.
I recall my root guru, Ma Jaya once telling me, “When you live with an authentic purpose, and serve with a full heart, then hard work isn’t an option… it’s a necessity.”
Give Something Back
A life worth living is a live based on serving others. Nothing will lead you to a greater sense of accomplishment than giving back to the world around you, especially to those in need.
When I would take my dharma students, many of whom came from affluent neighbourhoods in Atlanta and Washington, D.C., out on the streets to deliver meals to the homeless in the inner cities, something powerfully transformative took place in their lives.
They not only felt like their lives had more meaning, but they began to accomplish more in their lives, personally, financially and spiritually, because generosity opens the doors of abundance that our self-serving “grasping” prevented from reaching us.
This purpose-driven approach to live is deeply satisfying, and allows us to return to the core of our practice, which is to alleviate suffering, and the causes of suffering in ourselves and in all sentient beings.
These six rules simply make it easier for us to live in the present moment. Ultimately, the goal of happiness can only be achieved when we recall the advice of the Enlightened One, as the ancient story tells us:
Once, a man said to the Buddha, “I want happiness.” The Buddha instructed him: “First, remove the ‘I’, for that is ego. Then remove the ‘want’ for that is desire. See now what is left… only ‘happiness’.”
May your road be unencumbered, and your mind be at peace. And may you always be happy and free of suffering and the causes of suffering.